Matt Abrahams

Matt Abrahams (00:00:00): Visualization is a really useful technique and you see yourself not just in the moment of speaking, but getting up to the stage, seeing it being well received, thinking about how you step off the stage. We see athletes do this kind of thing all the time, and there's good research to say that this desensitizes people. Lenny Rachitsky (00:00:16): Most of the public speaking we do is on the spot. It's not often you give a prepared talk....

The opener starts with biography before advice. That order makes the guest legible as a person before the listener extracts tactics.

just in the moment of speaking, but getting up to the stage, seeing it being well received, thinking about how you step off the stage. We see athletes do this kind of thing all the time, and...

Uses we/us, uncertainty, or learner framing instead of performing authority.

Matt Abrahams (00:04:54): Lenny, I am excited for our conversation and thank you for having me. Lenny Rachitsky (00:04:57): Thank you for being here. I'm even more excited for the conversation....

Accepts praise without shrinking from it or turning it into a performance.

ay, so let's talk about anxiety. You have a bunch of really novel techniques in your book and your podcast for calming your body down, calming your mind down when you're planning to give a talk, when you're...

Names a concrete strength, artifact, or contribution instead of offering generic praise.

(00:32:05): Matt Abrahams (00:33:39): I see you said shift very carefully. I appreciate that. Lenny Rachitsky (00:33:44): Now we're going to be so, so careful, I don't want this podcast flagged and...

Matches the guest's warmth and keeps the social temperature generous.

Matt Abrahams (00:06:27): The Brady Bunch advice is not good advice. I don't know about you and I don't know anybody who could imagine seeing a bunch of people in their underwear and feel more...

Uses we/us, uncertainty, or learner framing instead of performing authority.